Nobody has the right to mistreat another, because that is not healthy and it is punishable by law. No healthy and pure upbringing that a person can receive includes mistreatment. Mistreatment is not something that should be approved of, nor hidden; all mistreatment must be reported, because there are many who take advantage and manipulate, thinking they are indispensable and that they can continue to abuse day in and day out.
The word of God stands completely against domestic and relational violence, because in Ephesians 5:25 it is written: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Nowadays, there is a trend of starting to live together without being married, and jealousy often arises, because you look everywhere and see people posting “in a relationship,” while those who post “married” do not appear as much. People want to live illegally both by law and before God, which is why they give names to things that do not exist, and later, when problems start, everything gets posted online.
Let us start from the viewpoint that from the moment a person says “this is my woman” or “my man,” they must marry by law and by church and live in their own house, apartment, etc. Because that is what the word of God demands of us: for a man to leave his father and mother’s house and unite with his wife, and the two shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Nowadays, you find minors walking around talking about “my woman” and “my man,” and they haven’t finished school yet or they have stopped going to school altogether. And that comes from the fact that just because they slept together, they already consider themselves each other’s property, and that is why among the youth there is so much violence and even killings. All of this is contrary to the healthy upbringing and pure, clean education they should have received from their parents.
Many of those relationships nowadays are bought with money and material things, and that is how they start to think they have dominance over one another. But there are also many marriages where the man and the woman do exactly the opposite of the word of God. Machismo and manipulation from both sides are causing a lot of pain between couples. A virtuous woman is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones (Proverbs 12:4). Every type of insult causes wounds and is a sin in the eyes of God; people are not here to break each other down, but to edify one another. Therefore, the word of God says in Proverbs 18:21: Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Many people ruin their marriage with their mouths. He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). A man or a woman can be highly educated, with degrees, wealth, and in a high position, but malice, immorality, adultery, and being an abuser will destroy everything they may have, and their life loses respect, integrity, and responsibility. The word of God says to keep the marriage bed undefiled, and that God will judge adulterers. In every marriage, in every relationship, respect comes first; if there is no respect, no relationship has a foundation. Therefore, it is good to wait on God before rushing into an emotional relationship without consulting Him.